Are you frustrated, angry, experiencing anxiety and even agony? Are you tired, carrying a constant feeling of fatigue? Are you living most of your life through obligation rather than creativity Then you may have lost connection to your inner child.
I know exactly how that feels. It was present in my life for so many years that I considered ending it — because I couldn’t deal with the pain anymore. A pain constantly streaming from my abandonment wound. A broken link to the source.
I’m grateful today that I gave myself one more chance. What I didn’t know then was that chance would lead me into more than 20 years of intense shadow work. In that work I found my inner child — hidden in the darkness of my own being. The shadow of yourself is the inner child you abandoned many years ago.
If you want to make healthy decisions, set healthy boundaries, and honour who you truly are — you need that part of yourself back. You are going nowhere healthy without it.
Here is a letter I wrote to my inner child when I realised how long it had been missing.
Coming Home — A Letter to My Inner Child
Hey there, little one. I see you now.
You’ve been here all along, haven’t you? Growing up in the shadows beside me, while I looked away — afraid you’d leave if I didn’t leave you first. Fear of abandonment, they call it. But it was me who abandoned you.
I was terrified you’d reject me if you saw who I’d become. So I hid from your eyes, built walls between us, while you grew stronger in the dark.
I feared being seen — the real, broken me — so I chased perfection like a promise. Never feeling good enough. Never letting you see me stumble, thinking that would keep you close.
Guilt became my constant companion, whispering that I didn’t deserve your love. Overthinking every word, every choice, trying to solve the puzzle of why I felt so alone when you were right there all along.
Anger flared up like a wounded animal — not at you, but at the distance I created. Greed and envy crept in too, watching others hold their inner child close while I kept mine at arm’s length.
I people-pleased my way through life, giving everyone else what I wouldn’t give you. Attention. And when it hurt too much? I numbed it all. Avoided feeling the weight of what I’d done. Leaving you to grow up alone.
But look at you now, mighty one. You didn’t crumble in those shadows. You became powerful, strong, fearless — waiting patiently for this moment, hoping I would finally turn around and recognise you.
So here I am, little warrior. I see you. I recognise you. Let me shower you with the forgiveness you’ve been waiting for.
Come home to my heart — not as the child I left behind, but as the powerful soul you’ve become.
We were never meant to walk separately. Let’s be whole together now.
If you are currently in crisis or experiencing thoughts of suicide, please reach out to a doctor or crisis helpline in your country immediately. This space is for people ready to do the inner work — not a substitute for professional mental health support.
Have you had enough of your own struggle? Are you ready to see life as a challenge rather than a problem?
If so — you now have the chance to reconnect with your own inner child. The part of you full of desire and inspiration.
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We don’t heal alone. We don’t grow alone. We don’t liberate alone.
When presence meets presence — freedom begins.
